The Transformative Power of Giving 🌟

#19 Son of a Viet Kieu | What you need the most, give first!

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Now jumping into today’s blog:

I was laying on a thin mattress in the classroom, seeing all the Christmas posts on Instagram from my friends in Germany.

I put the phone away, wondering how my life would be now, if I was not in Ho Chi Minh City, trying to make a start-up succeed.

Instead of living in a classroom because I could not afford a room, I would be living with my family.
Instead of using the air con to cool down the room, I would enjoy the winter and snow in Germany.
Instead of sleeping away the feeling of loneliness, I would celebrate Christmas with my friends and family.

The more I thought about it, the more my emotions became a roller coaster, leaving me soulless and broken inside. 🎢💔

Those moments were often the hardest. Trying to make your dream come true by sacrificing other things. 💭✨

It is not just me, many other people go through those moments. There are students who had to move to a city far away from their hometown, feeling homesick every day. There are entrepreneurs who have to fight loneliness, even though they are surrounded by their staff. There are people who work really hard to provide for their family but would love to spend more time with them.

We all have “emotional needs” and often times, we cannot meet them at this certain point in time. Since I moved to Vietnam, the culture shock left me in such states quite often. But fortunately, I learned a way how to deal with this. 🌏

I am a huge believer in karma. When you do good, then good will happen to you. Similar to this concept, I stick to the belief that it is about giving. But in my case, it is a bit more specific.

I help someone else to meet a certain need, that I need the most as well. 🤝

In my case, for example, on Christmas during lockdown, I felt extremely lonely because I was living in a “cold” classroom, only with a mattress and a furniture rag. All walls and tables were white, and the whiteboard would reflect this “coldness” right to me.

Seeing my friends and family enjoying their Christmas in a warm environment emphasized the lack that I had.

The need of feeling emotionally connected!

After dwelling on my emotional down, I remembered the life-saving belief: “What you need the most, you give first.”

So, I picked up my phone again. I selected some friends that I have not reached out to in a long time and checked on them. I focused on giving them my energy and making them feel seen and heard. I would send them reminders that they are wonderful and kind-hearted and give them examples of why they have been great friends to me. 📲💌

I genuinely appreciate those people in my life, but sometimes I forget to let them know how precious they are. By giving them my love, I always have received responses that would melt my heart and also feel like I just made their day, which leaves me in a positive space, too. 💕

But why is that? 🤔

According to many scientists, people are social animals and actually crave social connection. 🧬👥

The best example that supported this concept of the importance of giving was this:

Imagine you were extremely hungry. Now you have $10 and buy yourself something nice to eat. No doubt, you would feel happy. 🍔

But imagine you had your most important person next to you. It could be your family, your spouse, or your best friend, and this person was equally hungry as you. Instead of buying yourself something to eat, you spend the money on this person. Even though you are still hungry, I am sure that you feel incredibly content because you were able to help someone to ease their pain. Just their smile from their first bite might leave you in a better mood. 😊🍽️

Kindness is powerful and always comes back in one or another way … or isn’t it? 🌈

What about money? If I need money first, does it also come back? 💰

Well, this is something that I needed to try and understand myself, too. I was not quite sure if that would work. 🤷‍♂️

But this event left me convinced that it was true as well. 🌟

I came back from New Zealand and made a mistake in submitting papers, which left me with a fine of $2000. I also bumped into another car with my dad’s car. Since I did not have insurance, I had to pay another $1500. 🚗💥

At that moment in time, I was working hard and had only $500 in my bank account. 💸

During that time, a friend that I treated like my little sister was asking if I could lend her some money to go on an exchange to China.

I knew that she was incredibly talented and smart. I knew that she would gain so much experience and value from staying one year in China, but her family had some financial difficulties. I knew if she was not going now, she never would.

So, I lent her $200 and gifted her $200. Even though I only had $100 left in my bank account and still had $3500 to pay back, I felt incredibly happy and fulfilled that I was able to support her. 💵💖

I wrote an e-mail to the German government, asking if I could split the payments so that I would be able to pay everything back on a monthly basis.

The response shocked me. They decided that they would drop the charges because they believed it was a misunderstanding and I did not do it on purpose.

A few days later, the insurance of my dad sent a letter stating that they would cover all the costs and add me into the insurance. 📜✔️

WTF just happened within a week after I transferred the money to my sister? 🤯

I could not help it but feel blessed and thought to myself, that it was true: “What you need the most, you give first.”

As long as you do it wholeheartedly and serve others, the universe will find ways to give it back. 🌌💫

Conclusion: The Power of Giving 🌟

Through my journey, I have discovered that the simple act of giving can transform not only others' lives but also our own. In moments of hardship and loneliness, reaching out and sharing our love and resources can create a ripple effect of kindness and connection. Whether it's lending an ear, sharing a meal, or offering financial support, the principle of "what you need the most, you give first" has proven to be a guiding light.

By embracing this mindset, I've found fulfillment and unexpected blessings in my life. It has taught me that in giving, we receive far more than we could have imagined. As we continue to navigate the challenges and uncertainties of life, let us remember that our actions, grounded in generosity and compassion, have the power to create a more connected and supportive world. 🌍✨

So, the next time you feel a need, try giving it first, and watch how the universe responds. The results might just surprise you. 💖🌟

Thanks for reading to the end and I wish you an awesome day full of kindness and positivity. See you next Sunday morning for a new blog of #sonofavietkieu. 🥰

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